How to Be a Romantic

Because romantics are far too rare.

from the heart of jonnytran and the soul of pneuma

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something hurts, something within your left breast

I wiki’d “heartache” on and it directed me to “love sickness”

“Love sickness is a non-medical term used to describe mental and physical symptoms associated with falling in love.

Historically, love sickness has been viewed as a mental illness brought on by the intense changes associated with love. Universally acknowledged polymath Avicenna, a Persian, viewed obsession as the principal symptom and cause of love sickness. This diagnosis has been out of favor since the humoral model has been abandoned, and since the advent of modern scientific psychiatry.

Similarity to mental illness

A 2005 article by Frank Tallis suggested love sickness be taken more seriously by professionals.[1]

Some of the symptom clusters shared with love sickness include:

  • mania or hypomania – abnormally elevated mood, inflated self esteem, extravagant gift giving
  • depression – tearfulness, insomnia, loss of concentration
  • obsessive-compulsive disorder – preoccupation, constantly checking (e.g. text messages/emails, etc.), and hoardingvalueless but superstitiously resonant items
  • psychologically created physical symptoms, such as upset stomach, change in appetite, insomnia, dizziness, and confusion.

More substantively, the estimated serotonin levels of people falling in love were observed to drop to levels found in patients with OCD.[2] Brain scan investigations of individuals who professed to be “truly, deeply and madly” in love showed activity in several structures in common with in the neuroanatomy of obsessive-compulsive disorder CD, for example the anterior cingulate cortexand caudate nucleus.[3]

It’s true! Love makes you crazy! Nietzche is correct. But can someone explain the physical processes that make love hurt? The actual pain that stabs you and makes you want to die a thousands deaths to love a thousand times over.