September 2011
1 post
3 tags
A lot of men want a woman to mother them. They get with a woman and all they do...
– Henry Rollins (via thatkindofwoman)
July 2011
1 post
I was always hungry for love. Just once, I wanted to know what it was like to...
– Haruki Murakami (Norwegian Wood)
*Thank you for filling me up. I only need this once, continuously overflowing, I only need you.
April 2011
2 posts
When the gods wish to punish us, they answer our prayers.
– Oscar Wilde
I met in the street a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his...
– Victor Hugo, French writer
March 2011
4 posts
If I still believed...
…what would I post?
The times I don't seek you out...
…are the times I need you the most.
Unfortunately this makes no sense in retrospect. Feelings are not always on my side.
January 2011
2 posts
Let sorrowful longing dwell in your heart.
Never give up, never lose hope.
Allah says, “The broken ones are my beloved.”
Crush your heart. Be broken.
- Shaikh Abu Saeed Abil Kheir, aka Nobody, Son of Nobody
December 2010
2 posts
To Love is to be God.
Never will a Lover’s chest feel any sorrow.
Never will a Lover’s robe be touched by mortals.
Never will a Lover’s body be found buried in the earth.
To Love is to be God.
— Rumi (via fuckyeahrumi)
November 2010
9 posts
There will come a time when you won’t be able to ignore what you’re...
– Art Ticknor, Solid Ground of Being
If you want to work on your art, work on your life.
– Anton Chekhov
As long as I exist, we can never be one.
As long as there is a “you” and a “me”, there will always be two. The sages say the self causes us to not see what truly is. That “I” am simply an imaginary mental construct. This construct will always be separate. The way to become one — transcend the boundaries between myself and what I love most — is to see that I don’t really...
Unhappiness is when we worry about not having something, depression is when we...
– Jed McKenna
October 2010
4 posts
September 2010
5 posts
The Source of Love
I discovered the Source. The Source of Love. Pure Love. Unconditional Love. Timeless Love. Of course, I’m not the one who discovered It. It revealed Itself to me. I was dreamt. And then one day, I was dreamt to be aware, of what was aware of me. Always here. Always there. Closer than close can be. In this world of separation, there is me, and there is thee. But before thee,...
Am I really singled out for him in some way, is there really some pale gold,...
– Gudren Brangwen in Women in Love by D.H. Lawrence
Sonnet 43
When most I wink, then do mine eyes best see, For all the day they view things unrespected; But when I sleep, in dreams they look on thee, And darkly bright, are bright in dark directed. Then thou, whose shadow shadows doth make bright, How would thy shadow’s form from happy show To the clear day with thy much clearer light, When to unseeing eyes thy shade shines so! How would, I...
I had to decide...
… was my love for her conditional? or unconditional?
August 2010
1 post
Secrets bind us. Secrets bring us closer together.
– Gary Chapman, referring to shared secrets
July 2010
7 posts
He is the longed-for, and the one who longs; he is the arsonist — and he...
– Ovid
The Wager
I have staked my body and mind
To play dice on wager with my Love.
If I lose, my Love wins me
If I win, He becomes mine.
— Kabir (1440-1518) (via Solid Ground of Being)
People want to know how much you care before they care about how much you know.
– James F. Hind (via @DrGaryChapman)
Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.
– Gary Chapman
June 2010
1 post
What Is a Romantic?
Romanticism is just another pattern. What is that pattern? It occurred to me to try to write it down. This is not perfect, but I’m erring on the side of something over nothing.
Necessary traits of a Romantic
Unattainable Object of love
Willingness to do anything to attain object of love, even destroy oneself
Persistence in the face of certain failure
Oftentimes associated
...
May 2010
14 posts
Memories are interpreted like dreams.
– Leo Longanesi, journalist and editor (1905-1957)
No more searching, no more waiting.
That’s what co-blogger Jon commented after I briefly updated him on my current love/relationship status. And he completely hit the nail on the head. Though I’ve been busy, certain recent posts were inspired by real feelings, a recognition of truth in those words, rather than just conjecture.
Here’s an abridged version of our story.
He and I met in Hong Kong during our Study...
When you know what you want more than anything else, life is simple.
Dear 12-year-old Self,
I wish I could show you all the things I’ve learned through blood and sweat and pain and tears. One thing I always wanted but never knew how to do was to be close with other people. It turns out, it’s quite simple. But it’s the exact opposite of what you might think.
I spent most of my life trying to protect myself from pain. Trying to hold up a self-image of being smart...
Documentary
Suppose you were going to make a movie, whose subtitle would be “The Life and Death of [your name goes here].” And suppose there were three possible choices for the title itself:
Pride
Fear
Surrender
What are your feeling-reactions to each possible title? How well does each one, when you consider it, describe your experience? And what is the relation of surrender to pride and...
compassion
noun. Deep awareness of the suffering of another, coupled with the wish to relieve it.
Perhaps love is the process of my leading you gently back to yourself.
– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry